One of the biggest fears that men and women have is dating, or even worse, marrying someone who is a cheater. There are a number of websites that tell you how to detect a cheater such as always working late, unaccounted withdrawals from a joint bank account, etc. The problem is that these tips are always after the fact, meaning that you are already involved with the cheater. But it would be both cool and useful to be able to narrow down the list of potential cheaters before you were in the relationship.
A recent article in the Huffington Post may be just the answer you are looking for. Instead of trying to deal with the situation when you are in over your head, you can avoid ever getting into the situation. How? By following some basic guidelines based on research from a number of different areas. Some of the research and results is gender based, so not everything on the list will apply to you.
First, we will start with the guy characteristics that will increase the likelihood that he will cheat on you sometime in the future. The first, and perhaps more obvious items on the list is – he is tall. We are not talking 6’4” and above, but any guy who is over 5’10”. One reason comes from women who have dated short guys and swear that they will never again get involved with a guy shorter than them. It’s supposed to be a self-esteem thing.
Another quality of a man cheater is that he works in IT – information technology. Apparently these guys are not all about inanimate objects, but do have a clearly defined sense of objectivity. And that may be the reason they cheat – women are to be approached objectively with a clear purpose in mind.
The third guy cheating characteristic is something the guy usually has no control over – his name is Wayne. A study of 2000 women found guys named Wayne were the least likely to be worthy of a woman’s trust. That is what the women say and who can argue with that fact?
Moving over to the woman’s side, if she is a blonde she is more likely to indulge her wild side in bedroom romps. The reason seems to be there is a cultural perception of blonde women being more fun in general, and that has carried over to the sexual side for the last 50 years or more.
A second reason may not surprise a lot of guys because we all know how we felt about one of our high school teachers in an adolescent way. That’s right, the teacher is more likely to cheat than other female occupations. Perhaps the reason is they are tired of teaching lessons and are willing to be taught a few.
The third characteristic of the female prowler is she is a shopaholic. Now there are specific things they shop for, cosmetics and items that will enhance their personal appearance are at the top of the list. So looking good is one thing, but spending a lot to look great is a red flag.
The good news is that rather than dissecting these characteristics into gender, we can assemble a quicky list of warning signs that apply to both men and women. If they are French, beware. If the Joan Jett and the Blackhearts most famous song is your love interest’s favorite song, you might want to change your tune. If your sweety has a passion for Twitter, they may be tweeting signals to be picked up by like minded people.
Of course, these are generalizations and the entire situation has to be taken into consideration before jumping to conclusions. On the other hand, ignoring scientific research can be hazardous to your romantic and sexual health. In the end, it is all about how well you know the person you are with – and want to be with.